Whoever you are. Wherever you are. From Timbuktu to Greenland, from north pole to south pole and back, if you are 15 or 50, at some point in your life, you will have stumbled over that mystery which has inspired myriads of philosophers, authors, scientists and truth seekers all over the world:
Now, lets see where we stand.
Scientists, party poopers they are, say its all down to hormones, developed by evolution to secure the survival of the human race.
Of course, animals of all kinds survive just fine without any romantic feelings. There are also certain human societies that survive just fine without it, and even thrive, when it comes down to numbers. So what madness has possessed other societies to develop that special kind of romantic love portayed by the picture above?
Influence of the american society? Valentine's day anyone? Nah, not really. While Christianity, as a whole, seems to have a lot to do with it. If i remember correctly, the concept of romantic love came up during Middle Ages in Europe. Precisely, over a time peroid of 300-400 years. Unfortunately, its impossible to find the exact culprit of this abnormality.
Because it is an abnormality. In scientific terms.
Let me tell you a story.
There was a woman who married a slightly younger man. This man was very charming, good looking, nice, friendly and warm, the dream of a husband. That woman fell deeply in
love' with him, and for a while, her world was a rosy as it could possibly be.
He seemed to do everything for her, they had kind of a 'spiritual' bond, and she fell deeper and deeper into that trap that could only be a receipe for disaster.
Over time, she detected here and there that something was not right, but she never thought of finding out what it was- as it often happens in 'romantic love' relationships, she refused to come out of her rosy- cosy state of mind, since life seemed so easy and well- planned and she had invested so much of herself. So much that she didn't realize her own personality drowning in the process. When she finally realized it, it was too late.
The day came when she found out that her charming husband had used said charme not only for her, but for a good dozen of other women. He was married to another woman as well.And had 2 other children from that marriage.
The woman went through a hell she never imagine it existed and finally ended in a psychiatric clinic, where she still is today. She could never be healed again, despite any kind of therapeutic measures. She is until today in a more or less catatonic state.
Its a sad story, but i only use it as an extreme example. Have you ever been 'lovesick'? And have you ever been the victim of a others making a lot of jokes about it? Make no mistake. It is indeed a sickness, and it can be a very dangerous one.
Now, lets come to the positive side of the coin. Because there is one, in a spiritual way, and if you are interested in spiritual development, here is your chance of a lifetime to get the most out of it for yourself.
First, lets make clear that the concept of 'romantic love' is a fraud. Second, even if its a fraud, it can help you to develop in a spiritual sense like nothing else can. It can teach you more about what holds the world together than any science on the planet.
Because what holds the world together, is universal love. All the frauds, all the temptations, all the pain we go through are, in the end, only steps on the ladder to finally scratch the surface area of universal love.
This might not be a comfort to you if you are in any state of pain caused by romantic love. But it might be a comfort to know that while experiencing this, you are already developing a much deeper understanding of what makes the world turn. You have the chance to see through the fraud and to help others to see through it as well.
When you are a woman, you might still meet another man (or woman) who will make your hands shake. It happens. Enjoy it, but recognize the fraud. Universal love is not a fraud. Its very real, its the essence of our existence, its the ultimate goal. Romantic love to one special person is what opens our heart, what makes us feel the glimpse of that ultimate goal, what gives us a first impression of what we can achieve.
The person you have loved (and the one who hurt you) is the person that opened your path.Its up to you to follow it.
This is only a blog. I'm a normal person, i don't have a philosophers stone (and you bet i wish i had). Don't take my word for it, but maybe some day, you will be able to discover your own truth, and find your own enlightement.
I wish you luck.
Have a nice day!
